Should twins be in the same class ?

To be Parents of twins would be super excited to know that they are expecting Twins. But looking after twins is not an easy job. Both parents should share equal responsibilities of the kids after they are born. If you are a first time parent make it a point to join a club of parents who have twins. It becomes easier that way. When the children grow up to be preschoolers they enjoy each others company. They do not need other friends. But advice from Twin coaches is to keep them apart in school. They need time apart inspite of being very close to each other to grow and develop their personalities. Here are some parenting tips for the education and schooling of their Twins. There are two main views discussed. One is that the twins should be separated in school. and the other that they should not be separated in school

Avoid Dominance

Dominance of one twin over the other cannot be avoided if they are together. Just in case one twin is more dominating in nature, there is a chance the other twin will be subdued and that could be problem for him / her for life. He/ She will always be in a shell and will never open out. If one of the twin is an Introvert and the other an extrovert then the introvert blends in with the friends of the extrovert twin automatically. In this case the Introvert twin does not have to work on the skill of opening up. He / she is already a part of a ready group. Separating them could result in the introvert twin opening up faster.

No Comparisonshoud be done

There is a tendency of twins getting compared to each other when they are in the same class in school. This prevents the weaker one from becoming strong. He will always be under the shadow of the stronger or more intelligent of the twins. There are times when maybe one twin is excellent in reading or maths while the other is not. This will make the stronger one feel guilty as most teachers will say it in front of the kids.

Separation keeps them close

Normally people think that keeping twins away from each other will drift them apart. Separation from each other keeps the twins yearning for each other as otherwise at home they are together doing all chores in each others company. School is a new place for them and they are out of their comfort zone. So when they meet they have a lot to talk and discuss about and they get a lot of information from each other. So hence the myth that when your twins are given their me time separately they drift from one another is a complete misnormer. Infact they get closer to each other. The time they get away from each other encourages them to understand themselves as individuals and become more confident.

Disadvantage of not being together

There are Pros and cons to everything. In this case the disadvantage is that if the kids are in two different classes it becomes a hectic schedule for the mother of the twins. She has to attend to volunteering if needed in two different classes, Help in making projects for both the kids. Maybe the topic of the project is different. The two classrooms can have sets of different rules and regulations which the mother has to adhere to. Then dropping both the kids to their different classes and then being there on time to pick them up is also a difficult chore. When you have to cater to their tiffin menus set by the two teachers of the two different classes, it becomes very difficult for the mother to do this.

Get Organised

You can turn the disadvantage to your favour by getting a little organized. Put down all details of each week on your computer . Or make a note on whiteboards , A different colour for each twin noting down their activities, events and menu for the week is not a bad idea. You as a mother will definitely put things together better if you organize yourself.

Being at two Places

Being at two places at the same time is humanly impossible. So if you have to attend an event in both classes , you can always request the teacher if the other twin can attend this class and the next time this twin can attend the event in the other twin’s class.

Talk to other parents of twins

Talking to other parents of twins who have already gone through this rigmarole will be very helpful to the first time parents of twins. They are already experienced so they can guide you to better solutions.

There are different views to the topic of the education and schooling of twins. It is debatable. There are some opinions which say that they should be together and some opinions say that they should be separated. But majority say that the twins should be separated if you want them to be confident individuals in their adulthood. There should not be any dependency on each other even though they are there for each other whenever needed. As a parent of twins, what would you do ? Comment your thoughts on your choice.

Celebrate your kids passion !

We live in an economy where we are forced make decisions that challenges our emotions and intelligence, whether to allow our kids to follow their passion or direct them in the path where the basic survival is assured. When we look back at history people who are being celebrated are the ones who did what they really loved.

Thomas Edison was one such personality who pursued his passion from child hood. His father was an exiled political activist from Canada and his mother was an accomplished school teacher. She was a major influence in Thomas’ early life. His hearing disability due to scarlet fever at an early age made his mother pull him out of school and give him home education. At the age of 11 he suddenly showed great affinity towards reading books and had a voracious hunger for knowledge. His mothers idea of home education gave him that opportunity for a wide –open curriculum where he could learn and study just what he was interested in. He developed a process of learning independently which helped him throughout his life. His passion was experimenting which he continued and was always encouraged by his mother. He became the genius of our time just because he was allowed to pursue his passion.

How to help your kids to find their Passion ?

A child’s passion if tapped early in life can be very helpful to him as he may not be aware of what he is really interested in. You as a Parent should be very vigilant about your child’s various interests and hit on the right one which will help him in his future. You should help your child by introducing him to various activities which you think may be of interest to him . When he sees that you are taking pains to get him on track then even he will put in equal efforts .
You can help the child to find out his passion and then help him pursue it in many ways.

Help him with his Curiosity: Children basically are very curious and inquisitive right from their toddlerhood. Once they develop this habit of intense curiosity, expose him to a lot of different thing that you think may interest him. He will himself be able to discover his passion. It need not be an expensive matter. I could just be something you observe on the street and show it to him. Maybe that will be a good and interesting beginning for him.

Finding Passions: Do not react if your childs interest in something fades away within a few weeks of indulgence. Thing like this happen. You as a Parent should have tremendous faith in him and his abilities . Give him time to discover and practice his interest. If he feels later that he can pursue this passion further he will definitely do it. The making or shaping of your child depends solely on your patience with him until he finds something he is really very passionate about.

Listen to your child: You have to guide and support your child even if he keeps changing his interests from time to time. The passion he pursues should be of his interest and not something which you as a child always wanted to pursue and could not. Let him dream. Give him all the freedom to do as he wants. Do not force a child to do otherwise. The result will be that he will be pursuing something that you like which he was never interested in. But to keep your word he may do it. He will not be happy. Let your child do something that he will feel contented with. There are times when even as teenagers children are not sure of what they want to do in life. But there is no use fretting over this. There will be a time when they actually listen to their inner voice and would like to do just that whether it is a hobby converted to a career or just doing it for the feel of passion.

Go the distance: Be co-operative with your child. Even if there is something which you do not like or that would be the last place on earth you would like to be in, Be there for him. It is your duty to go that extra distance for your loved one. It is said that what is easiest for you as a parent may not really be very helpful for the child.

Help pursue pleasure:Try finding out as you talk to your children what are the things they do that make them very happy. There are things that they keep thinking about all the time. The child’s brain works 24X7 when he tries to pursue something of his own choosing. This Passion should give him pleasure. It should not be a burden on the child. A forceful parent can create negativity in the child towards the activities he has been asked to do.

Passion is a very valid reason that the child may be up early in the morning and stay up late at night. Passion is doing something which your child is interested in and he knows that if he pursues it as a career he will do it without getting bored and he will also kive his life on his own terms. The learned say that “ All children are gifted… They just open up their gifts at different times.” We as parents should help them to unwrap it and allow them to live to fullest!

7 ways to encourage children to be better at sports!

A sport is a lot more than just a way to pass time after school and on the weekends. According to Kids Health, regular exercise not only strengthens the children’s body but also helps them sleep better and reduce the risk of obesity and other health problems later in life. It also enhances the child’s self-esteem and improves social skills. However, it has been observed that children and teens prefer to spend more than 7 hours per day on average using Television, Tablets, phones, and other electronic gadgets for entertainment.
As parents, we can encourage our children to participate more in physical activities and ensure that their experiences are positive. If you are also concerned about the lack of physical activity your child has or you believe that your child can excel in a specific sports but does not practice much, then here are some tips you can follow to get the most possible out of sports.

Pick a sport:

Choose a sport for your child according to their age, taste, and physical abilities. Don’t force a sport on your child which can result in boredom or his or her resistance to joining. It is also important to select a sport which is affordable and easily accessible so you don’t have to give it up in the future due to lack of time or money.

Buy the necessary equipment:

Ensure that your child participates in the sports successfully by purchasing him or her necessary equipment required for the game. Make sure the gear is in working condition and fit the child correctly to avoid any potential injuries.

Get your child excited:

Share stories about the sports you have played or ask friends / family members to share their expertise about the subject. You can also read books about the game and famous sports personalities to pump up your child and get him or her excited.

Practice with your child as often as possible:

Go out and practice whenever you can. Consider these as appointments and mark them on your calendar so you don’t miss them.

Support your child:

Show your support by driving your child to the sports lessons and being there for them on their games. Boost their confidence by giving them a high-five and saying “good job” which will help your child to play better.

Cheer them in their failures:

Teach your child that winning and losing is part of every game and even pro athletes have bad days. Support him or her when they don’t win a game or succeed in their sport. Allow your child to express their feelings of disappointment but counter their negative feelings by pointing out their accomplishments through the game.

Keep a balance:

Balance your child’s athletics with school and non-athletic activities. If you feel that your child is stressed or avoids practices and games and only participating in the games for your happiness – then allow them to take some time off.
Remember, all children have different tastes and physical abilities. Find the sports that your child enjoys but don’t burden them with your expectations.

Tips to nurture and grow your childs creativity

Creativity is a word which is highly misunderstood. Creativity is normally thought of in respect to Art or Music or even poetry. But that is not the actual meaning of creativity. It is the ability to make something new. Creativity is Thinking of new things you have never ventured into.  Every person is creative. It is just that there are different fields like science, Art, Space, Painting, Cooking or playing a musical instrument.

What is Childhood? Childhood is a journey from infancy to Toddlerhood to Preschool to Middle       Childhood to Adolecence. Childhood is a time of supposed rapid change. Parents play a vital role in nurturing the creativity of their children. Creativity in a child helps them to fulfill their day to day tasks in the most unstressed way. Parents should be able to identify that special twinkle in the eye of the child when he is doing something interesting and also discover the elements of creativity in the child and nurture them in the right way. Every Child is different . So it is the inherent responsibility of the parents and then the teacher to identify and bring out the special talent of the child so that as adults they become imaginative and creative . A creative thought is the result of the mindset acquired at the very childhood. There are many things that you, as a parent, can do to nurture your child’s creativity.

Instill Confidence

Confidence in children should be instilled in them from their infancy stage.  Unconditional love should be given to them. They should not be scolded at for undeliberate mistakes done. If scolded they will lose confidence in themselves and may not try to do anything new. Try to strenghthen their curiosity and willingness to explore and take creative risks.

Encourage Curiosity

Einstein said, “Imagination is more important than knowledge.” It is the door to many possibilities. Cognitive and Social development fosters Imagination. needfor their future. Social development in a child supports the ability to express Cognitive Development which refers to the thinking abilities of the child. Thinking Out of the Box is the beginning of creativity in the child. Children express themselves verbally and non-verbally. Imagination and creativity are  skills which children should develop to regulate feelings and develop relations with others which boosts their confidence .

Encourage curiosity and exploration in a child. Try to make him find out answers to his own questions. Brainstorming should also be encouraged with kids who are very inquisitive & curious. Stimulate imaginative, independent thought by posing questions. Encourage Humour. Humor helps kids take joy in their creative intelligence. Laugh together often. Play imaginative word games.

Channelize Energy

Children are always very energetic. They should always be engaged in some or the other activity. The best way to deal with this is to channelize their energy in the right path.. Introduction to creative toys or puzzles will give them a way to use up their energy  . They can be taken out to parks to play where their social skills as well as cognitive skills are enhanced.

Spend Quality time

One of the most important aspects of nurturing is when you spare time to be with your child and spend quality time with them. Telling your child bedtime stories will enhance their thinking skills as well as their language skills. This is also a way to make them think creatively.

The children should be taught to be positive. To share their toys & books with their friends and  to care for their loved ones should be taught to the children from the very beginning. A conducive environment should be created for the child to be well nurtured.

Gift Creative Stuffs

Creative toys should be given to children as gifts so that they start thinking . Building Blocks is one such game.  They improve the fine motor skills of the child. They also enhance hand and eye co-ordination. This also helps them to build their cognitive skills. They learn to differenciate between shapes, colours, sizes, etc

Try Preschooling

They say that children learn and are able to absorb till the age of 5. So it is very important that the child is sent to a prechool where the teacher takes over from the parent and teaches the child and develops his Cognitive, language, Physical , Motor, Social  and Emotional skills.

These are some of the ways a child’s creativity  can be nurtured . There is no one “right way” to nurture your child. Comment your thoughts