How to introduce the newborn to their elder sibling ?

There will be a lot of joy and celebration in a family when the news of welcoming a new baby in the house is announced. However, bringing in a newborn for the second time is a totally different experience as your older toddler is at home and as you guessed right there will be a bag of mixed emotions when you break the news to your little one. You as parents will be equally anxious as during the first delivery there was enough time to focus on recovering from child birth. But this time round there is the job of looking after your elder kid as well as supporting him / her with his /her emotions. You will surely be wondering how to meet the needs of both your kids and how your elder one will react to the new addition to the family. The stark reality is that you were concentrating on your only child earlier . For him / her it was a mom-centric world. But hence forth he / she would have to share his world with a younger sibling who has grabbed the attention of the whole house. Consider a creative way to introduce your child to the family’s newest addition. So here are a few tips to deal with the situation.

Breaking the Big News

Before birth of the child as you can notice the bump try talking to your little one about the new addition to the family. Probably showing pictures about pregnancy can help depending on the understanding and age of the child. Make your little kid touch your bump and feel the baby moving inside. Tell him stories about what the little one will be doing inside and that he / she is waiting you meet her / his little brother / sister.

Include your Child

You should plan to take your little one for all the prenatal check up appointments with you. Your child should be allowed to hear the heartbeats of the unborn sibling and also should be shown the sonography so that excitement builds up in the little ones mind and he eagerly awaits the arrival of his younger sibling. Also you should allow him to touch your belly andask him to introduce himself to the unborn. They say that the unborn child understands everything you speak to him when he is in the womb.

Prepare your kid for your hospital stay

A few days before your admission to the hospital, you as a mother should prepare your child for your absence. You can tell him how much hisgrandparents love him and they are specially coming home to be with him and take care of him . Also you can plan activities with him so that he can doit with them. Schedule hospital visits for your elder one so that he knows where you are and he is also introduced to his little brother / sister as a BIG brother.

Make your Child feel responsible

Give the older child responsibilities and privileges for being the elder brother / sister. Tell him / her that the newborn will not do anything unless helped by his elder bro / sis. Make him feel that he is the first to make his little sibling smile. That will create a beautiful bond between them from the point of the elder one.

Albums Help

Show your kid his old Albums and tell him how cute he was as a baby and still is. Till the age of three children are very egocentric and would love praise from his mother whom he adores. You can also tell him stories about his days as a baby and how he wanted to be carried all the time and alsp prepare him that the newborn is going to do the same and he has to help mom with taking care of baby.

Let your child Express himself

Listen to what your child wants to tell you. Maybe he wants to express his excitement or his fears regarding the arrival of the new baby. Answer all his questions . He will definitely feel that he is being listened to and that you are not neglecting him.

Dad should help

It is very important that when the second baby is on its way Dad should pose as a very important figure in the elder ones life. He should emphasize that he is getting more of dad than the baby. But should also explain that both dad and elder bro will help mom to look after the little baby with diapers and all other little chores.
Further on with proper guidance from parents and grandparents Siblings can become the best of friends and confidants. The saying “ Friends come and go but Family is forever” is so true.

5 Cool ways to stop Toddler Tantrums

Temper Trantrums are very common with Toddlers. One minute they are happy and playing and the next minute you will see that they have not liked something that has happened and are howling and out of control. “Meltdowns are terrible, nasty things, but they’re a fact of childhood,” says Ray Levy, PhD, a Dallas-based clinical psychologist. Temper Tantrums start as early as when the child is a year old. Tantrums are the worst in the second year as by then the child can understand a lot more than he did earlier and knows exactly how to get his way. The reasons for these Tantrums are many. It could be hunger, boredom , wanting independence to do their chores which otherwise the caregiver does for the toddler. Maybe he is not able to communicate his needs to the parent or the care giver is not able to understand the child’s wants. There are many ways in which your toddlers tantrums can be stopped.

Hunger:

See to it that the Toddler is given his / her meals on time. There should not be any delay in their schedule. Chalk out a proper schedule for the day for your toddler. His meal time, bed time, play time are very important. The child easily gets upset when the schedule is not followed. They feel very secure and comforted when he is fed in time and put to bed in time too. If you are taking your toddler to the market with you see that he has a full tummy. Carry water along with you just in case he is thirsty.

Ignore:

There are times when your Toddler will throw temper Tantrums for no reason at all. He also knows very well that the parent will give in to his demands if he is howling away and does not listen to the parent. At this time the best thing that the Parent can do is to ignore the childs tantrums and behave as if nothing has happened as long as he is not harming anybody or himself. Soon the Toddler comes back to normal realizing that the parent is not going to listen to his tantrum and even if he continues howling , it is not making a difference to the Parent. You as a Parent can continue doing what you were doing earlier.

Give a Tight Hug:

When your Toddler is in one of his cranky moods where he has thrown a very frustrating Tantrum, Just hold him close to you. Your touch will cool him down a little for sure and he will feel secure in your hug. Assure him in a very soft voice that everything is alright and you are there for him as and when he wants you.

Listen to your Toddler:

As the child grows up he wants to become independent. Allow him to eat on his own even if you know that he is going to make a mess of the food given to him. He may smear his mouth with food or even mess up the floor. Be Patient. Listen to the child. If he says he wants to eat on his own, then allow him to. He will not only feel that he doing his work independently but also he will be more confident about doing his own work. Toddlers love undressing themselves and then they try wearing their basic clothes on their own. Be there with them when they do it. You can help them if they allow.

Divert Attention:

The moment a child throws Temper Tantrums, The Parent should be sure that he does not show his frustration . Try diverting your toddlers attention by giving him some other activity which he loves doing. The child will stop crying and screaming without realizing the change in activity as he is doing what he loves doing. Behavioral Consultant Kirk Martinsaid that “Motion Changes Emotion. We get kids doing another activity and we put out the emotional fire by remaining calm ourselves,”

So these were some of the best and cool ways to keep your Toddler away from having Temper Tantrums. Keep their Physical, Emotional and Nutritional needs in order and there you will have the best Happy Children.

Celebrate your kids passion !

We live in an economy where we are forced make decisions that challenges our emotions and intelligence, whether to allow our kids to follow their passion or direct them in the path where the basic survival is assured. When we look back at history people who are being celebrated are the ones who did what they really loved.

Thomas Edison was one such personality who pursued his passion from child hood. His father was an exiled political activist from Canada and his mother was an accomplished school teacher. She was a major influence in Thomas’ early life. His hearing disability due to scarlet fever at an early age made his mother pull him out of school and give him home education. At the age of 11 he suddenly showed great affinity towards reading books and had a voracious hunger for knowledge. His mothers idea of home education gave him that opportunity for a wide –open curriculum where he could learn and study just what he was interested in. He developed a process of learning independently which helped him throughout his life. His passion was experimenting which he continued and was always encouraged by his mother. He became the genius of our time just because he was allowed to pursue his passion.

How to help your kids to find their Passion ?

A child’s passion if tapped early in life can be very helpful to him as he may not be aware of what he is really interested in. You as a Parent should be very vigilant about your child’s various interests and hit on the right one which will help him in his future. You should help your child by introducing him to various activities which you think may be of interest to him . When he sees that you are taking pains to get him on track then even he will put in equal efforts .
You can help the child to find out his passion and then help him pursue it in many ways.

Help him with his Curiosity: Children basically are very curious and inquisitive right from their toddlerhood. Once they develop this habit of intense curiosity, expose him to a lot of different thing that you think may interest him. He will himself be able to discover his passion. It need not be an expensive matter. I could just be something you observe on the street and show it to him. Maybe that will be a good and interesting beginning for him.

Finding Passions: Do not react if your childs interest in something fades away within a few weeks of indulgence. Thing like this happen. You as a Parent should have tremendous faith in him and his abilities . Give him time to discover and practice his interest. If he feels later that he can pursue this passion further he will definitely do it. The making or shaping of your child depends solely on your patience with him until he finds something he is really very passionate about.

Listen to your child: You have to guide and support your child even if he keeps changing his interests from time to time. The passion he pursues should be of his interest and not something which you as a child always wanted to pursue and could not. Let him dream. Give him all the freedom to do as he wants. Do not force a child to do otherwise. The result will be that he will be pursuing something that you like which he was never interested in. But to keep your word he may do it. He will not be happy. Let your child do something that he will feel contented with. There are times when even as teenagers children are not sure of what they want to do in life. But there is no use fretting over this. There will be a time when they actually listen to their inner voice and would like to do just that whether it is a hobby converted to a career or just doing it for the feel of passion.

Go the distance: Be co-operative with your child. Even if there is something which you do not like or that would be the last place on earth you would like to be in, Be there for him. It is your duty to go that extra distance for your loved one. It is said that what is easiest for you as a parent may not really be very helpful for the child.

Help pursue pleasure:Try finding out as you talk to your children what are the things they do that make them very happy. There are things that they keep thinking about all the time. The child’s brain works 24X7 when he tries to pursue something of his own choosing. This Passion should give him pleasure. It should not be a burden on the child. A forceful parent can create negativity in the child towards the activities he has been asked to do.

Passion is a very valid reason that the child may be up early in the morning and stay up late at night. Passion is doing something which your child is interested in and he knows that if he pursues it as a career he will do it without getting bored and he will also kive his life on his own terms. The learned say that “ All children are gifted… They just open up their gifts at different times.” We as parents should help them to unwrap it and allow them to live to fullest!

10 Life Changing Tips for working parents to stay motivated

What really keeps you motivated ? As you enter into your parenting phase, there will be too many things to handle There are Personal and Professional goals that one sets. When that is not achieved in time…. People tend to feel depressed and have no motivation to do anything at all. Positivity & Happiness are much needed in life to feel motivated. Here are a few Tips which should help people to Stay motivated and improve their quality of life.

Decide on your goal

The First step is to Make small attainable  goals  or short term goals whether Personal or Professional. Self awareness is the key to your realistic goal setting. while setting up your personal goals, discuss with your spouse to have it realistic. Keep a diary and the first thing is the morning you should write a goal for the day and by the time you retire for bed you should strive to accomplish that goal.

How to go about Completing Goals.

Make checkpoints and track your progress. When a person sees that the goal for that particular day or week has been met with good results then he will feel more motivated to continue with the goal. Once the whole job is done, do not forget to reward yourself for it. Just in case you are not able to complete the goal set for a particular day then don’t be disappointed. This is a lesson learnt that you should finish your work before time  and use the spare time to complete other pending  jobs. There should be Clarity and Commitment to any goal set.

Determine your motivating force.

There should be  a sense of importance for the project that you want to do. Think of instances which motivated you earlier and then get on with the job in hand. Failures of the past make you more aware of the way you deal with situations in the future. Ralph Blum quoted “ The obstacles of your past can become the gateways that lead to new beginnings.” There will be negative thoughts all along. But you should keep yourself in control and think very clearly about the impending task and get on with work. Look at the bigger picture first then the nitty gritties follow.

Get Inspiration from friends and relatives

There are times when the demotivated YOU feels like giving up thinking that the task in hand is not possible. At that time you should look around you and see where you can see positive people who are near you, have failed many a times but have  still bounced back . Talk to such people who can be an inspiration to you. They may be people younger to you. But age should not be a barrier. Try to be around Positive people and take in their never say die attitude.

Get Organised

Normally when there is a big goal ahead and you are the sole decision maker you have a confused cluttered mind. Get organized by jotting down your thoughts and then deciding on what can be done.

Backup Plans – A Necessity

There are times when things don’t work out the way we want them to. And over and above that there is no time left to complete that job. To avoid all the last minute tension, there should always be not one but atleast two more backup plans which can be executed is the first plan of action does not work. This will eliminate all further tension and there will be motivation to work.

Fight the demotivated feeling

Giving in to demotivation is for losers. There is always a solution to every problem. It is a human tendency to normally go the easy way when there is a choice. You can either quit when things get difficult and remain demotivated all your life  or face the situation and emerge a winner forever as the grit in you grows..

Avoid Negative thoughts

Lots of times before you set yourself to do a task there are butterflies in your tummy . you are nervous and hence feel you will not be able to do that task. You imagine yourself doing the task and failing miserably. Learn to brush aside these type of thoughts and be Positive. Give yourself a pep talk and see the result.

Thank the Universe

A human being is never satisfied with what he has. He is always greedy for more. Practice to have an attidude where you thank the Universe and God for whatever you have.  This will make you a very positive person. So there is no place for demotivation.

Keep your mind working

Always see that you create new challenges in your task. This will keep you interested as well as motivated to complete the job. Always remember onething, Parenting is a blessing to celeberated. Have fun ! Comment your own ways and hacks to stay Positive !!

Why Parents should spend quality time talking to toddlers and how?

Who better than Parents can understand what they mean to their children or vice versa however grown up they are!! There is just one single truth which applies to Parents and that is that they should spend quality time with their children especially Toddlers. This age group needs all the attention you can give them as Parents. They Observe and understand. They need visual understanding as they are yet to learn to speak. But they understand everything you tell them. They are like wet sponges, able to absorb everything you tell them. Remember that Parents are the sole role models of their children. Children imitate by observing. SO by spending time with your children you will help them learn a lot. A Lecturer of Psychology at St Francis College for Women, Hyderabad, Neha Taparia said “ communication, “There are several ways you can create quality time for your toddlers and also later realize that making time is always in your own hands.

Stay away from your Gadgets

In today’s world People have become very addicted to their gadgets like their Mobile, Tab, Laptop etc. Keep them aside when you are with your Toddler. Give him undivided attention. This benefits the child and you.

Dinner Time

Having Dinner together is a very good ritual. Make your Toddler sit with you at Dinner Time. He could sit on the Parents lap or on a High Chair specially assigned for him. He also feels very important. Everybody should talk to him so that he learns how to talk and his social development progresses.

Bed Time

Bed Time Stories is an all time favorite with children. It creates a strong Bond between Parents and children as here you give them absolute undivided attention. You should tell them stories that you know very well and see the expression on your toddlers face as you tell them the story. It is pure excitement and they want to hear more from you. You also enhance their Cognitive or thinking skills and help their brain develop further.

Show your Love

All Children need a lot of Tender Love & Care irrespective of their age. Give them all the alone time that they need from you. Moments that you spend alone with your child giving them all your affection is well cherished and remembered by them. It is really wonderful when both parents together spend time with their Toddler on a one-on-one basis.

Eye Contact

When you talk to your Toddler, maintain eye contact with them. Initially maybe they are distracted but soon you will realize that he has your full attention and he is responding to your talk. This also teaches the child to look into somebody’s eyes when he talks to get undivided attention from that person. This is the best way of communication according to Experts. This will also help them develop their social skills as they grow up.

Smile

A Smile from the Parent lights up the Toddlers face. He knows that the Parent is very happy talking to him and this puts him at ease. There is no better way of showing your warmth and love for your little baby. He will also grow up to be a very happy child.

Uninterrupted talk

When you are with your Toddler, and he is trying to say something, you should encourage him to do so. DO not interrupt him. Learn to be a good listener. Maybe you may not understand his babble. Never the less, listen attentively giving him the satisfaction that you are listening to him. You can see sheer joy on his face and even you as a parent will experience pure ecstasy seeing your child talk to you.

As Parents, We should spend a lot of time with kids. They grow up very fast. Before you know it they are adolescents and soon they will not have time for you. By Spending quality time with your child even if it is 15 minutes a day will help them to become good adults and your love and affection for them will be their foundation of happiness which will last them a life time.

Top 10 Summer activities that will keep your kids super busy

SUMMER VACATIONS!! These words sound like MAGIC to children. They get a long break from Academics after a very hardworking year. Vacations are magic words that bring joy to all children. Summer vacation and the excitement starts with the last bell of the last day of school before closing for the much awaited vacation. The actual purpose of vacation in summer is to tide over the unbearable heat. Children want to forget anything to do with school for that period. Vacations are the best time to relax and enjoy and do activities which they had been wanting to do for a long time during the year. But this is a harrowing time for Parents . They have to think of umpteen activities  to keep their kids very busy.

Join Summer Camps

Summer Camps are the in thing today. There are many places where there are summer camps organized for children in certain age groups. There are many activities like Art & Craft, Fireless cooking, Gymnastics, Dramatics , Dancing etc. There are also camps organized for games like Cricket, Football & Hockey. There are also outdoor adventure camps held by organisations like the YMCA, YWCA, and many other private companies. Children get to learn to be independent and responsible.

Excursions

Excursions are fun outings for children. Especially if they are going out to that particular place for the first time. Parents can gather a group of other parents whose children are of the same age group as theirs. They can plan short excursions to the Museum or the Planetorium or the Cold drink Factory  or even the Biscuit factory. The excitement of the children is worth seeing. They not only gain knowledge but also have a lot of fun seeing how biscuits or cold drinks are made. In Planetariums they can see and learn about  the galaxy of stars, Planets and the Constellation. A visit to a Museum exposes you to in-depth information on any particular subject . Children learn about ancient civilizations and a lot more and they can take home an experience they will never forget.

Go to the Zoo

A Zoo is a place where there are different animals and birds. It is a great attraction for children. It is a world in itself. The children feel really fascinated seeing live animals which probably they had seen only on Animal Planet or even National Geographic before. The Zoo also offers joyrides on Elephants which the children will enjoy. It is a great delight to see colourful birds. There are some birds which are very rare. Parents can make this trip a fun as well as an educational trip. Outside every cage there is a small writeup on the birds or animals in that cage. This can be read out to the children. They can make a note of it. After going home Parents can ask the children to write a small essay on their visit if they are at an age where they can write.

Outdoor Games

Wake up the children early morning and take them cycling. This is also a good experience for them. Normally the roads are full of cars which do not let them even walk on their own on roads. Or Parents can take them to the beach if there is one close by and play games like hand ball or other running games. They get a lot of space to do this. There are also other outdoor games like Badminton, Seven Stones, Throw Ball, etc.

Indoor Games

Taking the kids outeveryday is really not feasible for Parents. Teach them some old game which probably you have not played since you were a kid yourself. You will be equally excited and will enjoy playing with the children. There are indoor games like Carom, Snakes and Ladders, Ludo, Monopoly, Chess, Scrabble etc which teaches them to sit in one place for a long time.

Plan a Treasure Hunt

On a weekend again Parents can get together with kids and Plan a Treasure Hunt. It could be planned as a family treasure Hunt where the children will be very thrilled to join their parents in the treasure hunt. Or a treasure hunt can be organized only for the children and the parents can have their share of fun.The Thrill of finding things right under a kids nose take on a new luster when found. The excitement of reading the clues and then decoding them and finding the next clue will keep them busy the whole day. Then there will be delicious snacks or lunch to satiate their hunger & thirst pangs. Children who cannot read can be given clues by using pictures to illustrate what they are supposed to find. This not only keeps them busy but also teaches kids the resourcefulness they need to play independently.

Make Reading Fun

Reading is actually fun. But Most children do not want to as it reminds them of school. The main aim of the parent should be to develop an interest in the child to read. It is not important for the child to get every word right. But it is important for the child to love reading itself. Once they finish the book and ask for another you are sure that you have succeeded in your effort. Once the child finishes reading a book the Parent can ask him or her to narrate the story in his own words. This is fun because otherwise they are on the other side of the fence with the Parent telling them a story. This will develop their language skills unknowingly. Reading clearly introduces them to new vocabulary.

Solve Riddles

There are books available in a wide range of Jokes, Visual puzzles and also brain teasers. For our young ones Books with hidden pictures can be given or even find the difference between two same pictures. They are brain teasers for kids who cannot read.

Picnics

Picnics is an event that can be organized for children in their backyard. This is one event which is lots of fun for kids as they are given a lot of fun food and sweets and they can also play many games. They provide that WOW factor for kids. Give the children ingredients for sandwiches so that they can make them themselves. So the thrill of making it is also enjoyed by them.

Movies

Take the children for movies which they have been longing to catch up with. There are many movies which are fun as well as educational. Else if you cannot take them out you can bring movies home .make some Popcorn for them and let them enjoy.

Thinking of activities for your kids is one big task. But surely not too difficult.Plan activities before hand so that you do not have last minute jitters of kids being home for such a long time. Enjoy their holidays.

Happy Holidays !